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Three Guiding Principles of Relationships: Embracing the Journey
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Break Free From Verbal and Emotional Abuse
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Make miracles happen! Benefits of volunteering in your community.
According to Aristotle, the famous philosopher, "the essence of life is to serve others and do good." That's what volunteering is all about. By raising your hand, you can volunteer…
Should I Be Ashamed of My Sexuality as a Mother? Spoiler Alert…NO!
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How to Fall Back in Love With Your Business: 5 Love Actions to Take
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Manifest a Magical Life You Want!
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Tired of Having Boring Sex in Your Relationship? Try These 7 Things
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Sharing Your Life Story With Your Kids: Tell It Like It Was!
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Narcissism: The Truth behind the Word
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Practicing Forgiveness: Let it Go for Your Sake
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In Praise of My Husband on Husband’s Day this April
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The Perfectionist Trap
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I’m Not Biting My Tongue Anymore! Speaking My Truth: Learned From Kids
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Did You Really Lose Yourself as a Mom? Or Were You Lost Long Before?
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How Do We Safeguard Our Kids From Toxic Relationships?
It's in the media. It's on so many episodes of crime shows. Toxic relationships turned into domestic abuse. Families are ripped apart by the grief of domestic violence. How do…
The Lies and Truth of Marriage: Growing Together and Apart
The lies of marriage make it difficult to have a "happy" or "thriving marriage, the truth is we grow together and apart. Here I am learning how to let go…
My Daughter Is Getting Married and This Girl Mom Is Getting a Son
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Tolerant? 5 Ways We Can All listen to Each Other Better
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The Ultimate Bon-fire; Thanks to My Brothers and Sisters of Camp Alvarado and Beyond…
It seems like another life ago, when I had a whole other family. Living on a compound in the middle of a desert far from home. In between flights and operations, a…
Why is Healing So Hard? Five Pitfalls That Kept Me Stuck In My Healing Journey
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Your Past: How to Let That Shit Go and Move On!
I'm sure you've heard the saying, "the past is a lesson, not a prison" or something close to that. Dang, why did it take me fortysomething years to figure this…
Spite is the Enemy, Not the Woman Next to Me.
Successful women surround me and it's so incredibly beautiful until I get a knot in my stomach. It happens slowly, but then quickly. Spite blurs my vision and creates lies…
7 Tips to Set Healthy Boundaries with Our Relationships
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Parenting Adult Kids is Hard: 4 Lessons I’ve Learned
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Living in the Hard Moments When I Want to Eject
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When Are You Going To Have Kids? Sensitive Topic Most People Don’t Understand
We recently flew to Minnesota and being a family of four we had one row with the girls and me, then my husband across the aisle. A seemingly nice woman…
Seeing Double: From My Baby Girl to Adult. 11 Things I Want You to Know.
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The Five Love Languages through Zucchini
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Kindergarten Is Calling: The Bittersweet Blessing of Letting Go
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Tips How NOT to Pass Your New School Year Anxiety onto Your Kids
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Summer Reading Book Club Ideas for Women From The We Spot
As things are opening up and people are beginning to reconnect, why not start a new women's book club? Meet with your current circle of friends. Create new connections virtually…
Overcome Family Guilt and Shame: 7 Ways to Stop Saying Sorry
Guilt says you made a mistake. Shames says you are the mistake. Guilt motivates. Shame annihilates. -Susie Garlick Do members of your family bring instant guilt and shame? Specific members…
How Do I Find My Fun Me Again? 5 Ways to Bring Your Smile Back
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The Ups and Downs of Entrepreneurship: How to Stay Balanced
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Losing My Religion: An Imperfect Journey to Finding My Faith Again
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Where My Girls At? Cheers to the Low Maintenance Friends
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Sorry Not Sorry: 13 Things I Will No Longer Apologize For
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Healing Childhood Wounds with a Letter to My Dad
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Life-Long Lessons From Camping and Our Three Month Trek (Recipes Included)
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Friends and Friendships…Healthy or Toxic? How Do You View Yours?
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What is Gaslighting? How Do I Protect Myself From This Abuse?
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Spring: Moving From A Long, Dark Winter to Restored Hope
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Life as a Stay-at-Home Mom in a Pandemic: Not What I Signed Up For
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Adult Child Guilt: Quick Tips on Setting Boundaries With Your Capable Parents
What is your duty as a child to your capable parents? Is it your job to make them happy? What happens when you have guilt for wanting to lead your…
Afraid to Talk About Masturbation? 7 of Your Self Pleasure Questions Answered
Masturbation. Even the word itself conjures up discomfort for many women. The guilt, fear and anxiety that surround masturbation in our society is astounding. Of course this makes sense. Growing…
There is Beauty in Giving! But Do You Have Limits?
I write a lot about how the beauty of giving is a gift itself, literally and figuratively. What about boundaries or cut-off points to your extended hand? If you do,…
Expectations Got in the Way of My Happiness: How to Let Go of Control
Okay, I know what you're thinking. How can expectations get in your way of happiness? You have to have expectations to achieve more. How do your children achieve the high…
People Pleasing: Set Yourself Free From the Lies You Tell Yourself
It's subtle, people pleasing. The lies women are telling are often so close to the truth, so subtle that they go unseen, but they never go un-felt. Women are telling…
Self-Made…There’s No Such Thing! We’ve all Had Help Along the Way
There is no such thing as a self-made man. We are made up of thousands of others. Everyone who has ever done a kind deed for us, or spoken one…
Spectacular Gifts of Autism I Learned From My Undiagnosed Friend
The most kind man drifted into my life during my mid 30's. He was like no other. Tall, muscular, kind eyes, quiet and clean cut. He was a man of…
Living Out Her Legacy: Five Life Lessons My Grandma Taught Me
I’m cuddled up under one of my grandma’s blankets. A Mendoza painting of hers is now hanging in my entryway, a statement piece I’d overlooked countless times when it hung…
Navigating My Husband’s Job Loss: God’s Way of Answering Prayers
We thought we were safe. Every day I would drive into our neighborhood and pray a thank you to God for this life he had given us. The neighborhood, the…
Grief: A Delicate State of Being of the Mind and Heart
Hello there and greetings to all who read this article. I hope and pray that everyone is doing well. That is indeed my hope for you. This article was going…
World Autism Awareness Day: The Spectrum of Life
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The Unexpected Sadness When Our Dog Died: 3 Things to Help your Kids with the Loss
Our dog died and I had no idea I’d feel so sad. I knew my kids would be sad to lose our pet, but I really didn’t expect to be.…
Hurry Up and Stop Growing: A Mom’s Clashing Feelings
Two of my husband's children are acting like a**holes. Sure, they're my kids too and right now I am shifting parental ownership to their father. I am sick of the…
Why Are Daughters Critical of Mothers? Generational Feminism
A long time ago I told my girls, "I'm definitely not perfect so I am definitely going to screw up at being a mom sometimes! All that I ask is…
A Punching Bag and Boxing Gloves: An Unconventional Relationship
My first birthday after losing my mom, I asked my husband for a unique birthday present. A punching bag. There was so much emotion that had built up inside of…
Where Have all my Adult Friendships Gone? How do I Make More Now?
Where have all my adult friendships gone? This is what I think when I'm cruising "social media" and I see pictures of the girl's weekends I was never invited to,…
Kindness: Make it Part of Your Legacy!
Perhaps the only legacy worth having is to have been known as a kind and compassionate person. -Unknown What exactly is kindness? A quick google search gives a simple definition;…
Black History Month- Acknowledging the Past and Fighting for the Future
As February comes to an end, I want to reflect on Black History Month. I believe that it is important to recognize that the end of this month does not…
Helping Little Humans Handle Big Feelings
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What is Wrong with You? The Damaging Dynamic of Familial Toxic Love
A couple weeks ago I was out shopping with my daughter. We saw this awesome shirt (pictured) in the store Zumiez. I posted it on my story on both my…
Give the Dance Moms a Break, Choose Acceptance Over Judgement
In 2016, I became a “girl mom.” But I was determined never to become one of those "Dance Moms." I was already mom to a little boy. He was innately a…
Reasons Why We Hesitate to Ask For and Accept Help When in Need
Do you find it difficult and are hesitant to ask for and accept help when you are in need? Why do some of us hesitate when it comes to asking…
Family and Politics: Preparing for the Conversations & Potential Fallout
Our current political climate has been rocky and down right nasty. No matter your political affiliation, bitterness seems to be the flavor of choice for interactions between those that disagree.…
Calling All Peacemakers: Making Peace with the Need to Keep the Peace
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My Dance with the Devil: Finding Forgiveness and Healing Friendship
Forgiveness, there would be no chance of it. I had danced with the devil, there would be no second chances. I can remember the morning just like it was yesterday.…
Life Lessons Learned From Beloved War Veterans
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Embracing Distraction with Kindness: Tips for Intentional Writing
With my cup of coffee steaming, the notion was simple: it was the perfect morning to enjoy some creative writing. Free from any plans and distraction-free, I was excited to…
Extending Kindness: Be Sure To Include Yourself
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To My Partner: Thank You for Your Investment in My Friendships
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Three Ways to Overcome The Challenges of Being a Caregiver
Being a caregiver can be very challenging and sometimes difficult to overcome but it can be done. On January 31, 2017, the rest of mine and my mother's lives changed…
Change: Transitioning Well Through the Different Seasons of Life
As she entered this world, she needed me to physically care for her every need. It was essential that she have me hold, change, feed, bathe, clothe, and nurture her. Then,…
Forget-Me-Not: Caring for Those with Alzheimer’s and Dementia
When I try to imagine what it’s like to have Alzheimer’s disease, the most common cause of dementia, I think of the flower that represents the cause — Forget-Me-Nots. Though…
Before You Break His Heart: A Letter to the First to Break My Son’s Heart
Dear First, Before you break his heart, will you hear me out? As I write this, there is a precious, 8-year-old boy asleep in the other room. He has a…
Sensitivity and Imagery: The Meaning and How They Impact You
Are you someone who is sensitive? If you are, do you sometimes ask yourself or just question, "Why am I so sensitive?" I have many times throughout my life, so…
Misconceptions About Introverts: What We Want the World to Know
In her book Quiet: The Power of Introverts in a World that Can’t Stop Talking, Susan Cain describes various misconceptions about introverts. She explains that, “At school you might have…
The Gift of a Sister: The Journey of Togetherness
A giggle escaped from across the backseat of the crowded Ford Super Cab pick-up truck. An exasperated groan escaped my lips as, yet again, my little sister crossed the boundary…
Dear White Parents of Black Children: Our Love is Not Enough
When I was in college I got pregnant with my daughter. I gave birth to her at the beginning of my senior year of undergrad. From that moment on my…
Why You Need to Tell Your Inner Circle How Much You Value Them
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Attached to My Smartphone: Steps to Create a Healthier Relationship
According to research, people touch their smartphones about 2,617 times a day. Clearly, we spend a lot of time on our devices. I never realize exactly how much until I…
My Husband’s Happiness is Not My Responsibility
June 30, 2002, I walked into a random church in Colorado Springs, Colorado. Little did I know that a handsome man would hit on me there and later become my…
The Surprising Benefits of Conflict
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When Life Is Too Much: The Children Are Our Why
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How to Break Up With Your Toxic Self in 5 Brave Steps
Do you often believe that you are not good enough? Do you constantly disappoint and judge yourself? Is blaming yourself for making mistakes and expecting perfection a daily ritual? This…
Yelling: How to Get Your Message Across
Early in the lock-down, I realized that I had no area in my house to "take" my yoga class. Work was from home, college was from home, high school was…
A Parent’s Unending Love and Support
Having recently spent a week in the hospital with my daughter, I started thinking about a parent's unending love and support. Even now, as a grown woman and parent myself. …
The Best Thing We Can Do for Our Children: Allow Them to be Themselves
“When you parent, it’s critical you realize you aren’t raising a “mini me,” but a spirit throbbing with its own signature. For this reason, it’s important to separate who you…
The Challenge for Moms and the Childless Woman to be in Community
Moms and the childless in community? All of us crave the fulfillment of whatever we assume is missing in our lives. Otherwise, life would be practically perfect. But the challenge for…
Best Friends: Celebrating the Relationships Between Women
My best friend of almost 34 years is a wonderful human being. I don't really know where I'd be without her. Her husband sometimes jokes that we share a brain,…
The Power of a Me-too Friend
We were sitting around her kitchen table. I got back from my psychiatrist and received my diagnosis. I got an answer, but it was an answer I never wanted to…
Help and Be Helped: What Makes Accepting Help So Hard?
I love helping people. It makes me feel purposeful and fulfilled. Every time I’ve taken an Enneagram test, I’m a 2. “The Helper.” I want to bring meals to you…
Surviving the Adult Teen Years: One Mom’s Two Cents
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Don’t Like Your Family? Five Reasons Why You Can Stop Feeling Guilty
There is nothing wrong with you because you cringe at the thought of being around your family (or someone in your family). And, if you are feeling guilty about it,…
How Many Times Are You Willing to Get Back Up When You Fall?
We all, at some point in our lives, have fallen down physically or mentally, ranging from childhood to adulthood. We've collected a treasure chest full of scars from a few…
How to Spark Transparent Connections through “How are you?”
I have long known that God created me with the gift of transparency. But have since learned to shroud it in discernment. To pause for a beat. Then, cautiously determine…
How to Identify Credibility When Information is Constant
There is a constant stream of information in our lives today. We have devices that fit in the palm of our hands that have access to all the information in the world. And if we don’t have said device, there is certainly someone in our circle that does and openly shares this information, whether requested or not. How do we weed out the noxious misinformation? Is it possible to define credibility within constant change?
Making Friends (Again) as an Adult.
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Keep your Marriage Thriving: Tips for Special Needs Parents
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My Husband Annoys Me Beyond Belief: Five Reasons Why I Stay Married
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Parenting a Tween Daughter: What She Needs Most
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You Reap What You Sow: How This Phrase Affected My Mindset.
There is an old proverb that mentions the idea of you reap what you sow. If you've ever heard this growing up, how did you decern it? When I heard,…
Empowered Women Should Not Equal Disempowered Men
I would say that I got onto my own path of empowerment in my early 20's. I was a single mom with my daughter for 8 years, went to college…
The Importance of Having People Like Us and Un-like Us!
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My Husband is Not the Romantic Valentine’s Type, He’s His Own Novel.
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Celebrating the Lives and Legacy of Childless Women
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Love and Kindness Go Together: A Relationship Reminder
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Opinions: Everyone Has One But You Never Know Who is Sitting Next to You
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Navigating Friendships Through All Stages of Life: 4 Things I’ve Learned
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Stepping Away From a Broken Marriage and Saving More Than Yourself
That one small act of stepping away, that you performed in the moment of tremendous courage, has the power to change destinies of the next generations! Broken Promises She was…
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Holiday Blues: Coming Face to Face with Loneliness and Discovering Joy
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Holiday Memories: 3 Ways to Capture Them in Your Journal
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Finding Those Raw, Real, Authentic Connections
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This Isn’t A Hallmark Movie! 6 Ways to be Present, Not Perfect, During the Holidays
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Going for the Win-Win: Decision Making in Relationships
We value strong, healthy relationships, but nothing can damage them more than poor decision making skills. Whether it is a spouse, sibling, long-time friend, or business partner, we want to stay close and feel connected. Going for the win-win is the solution to this problem.
Having the Courage to be Disliked: Why it’s so Important
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I Got You, Babe: Creating Authentic Female Friendships
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Caution Work Ahead: It’s OK to be a work in progress!
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Embracing Gen Z: Learning to Relate Across the Generations
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Mind Your Gurus: How to Manage All Those Voices We Follow
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Three Ways to Deal with Rejection and Live a Healthy Life
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Validation in the 21st Century: The Impact of Social Media and Communication
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Music is Healing: Hope, Love, and Community Can Be Found Here
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Hitting Rock Bottom: Finding the Blessings in the Hard
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The Art of Commitment- Lessons in Digging Deep
Glasses clinked together as cheers resounded throughout the room. Cake was cut, ice cream served as the committed couple were celebrated. Giggles bubbled forth around the table. Children and adults…
Releasing: Surrendering Control and Understanding
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Tips for the Sandwich Generation: Caregiving for Ailing Parents While Raising Kids
Many of us are caring for our parents as they get to an age where their health begins to fail or they are diagnosed with a chronic illness. In addition…
My Reactive Behavior Almost Ruined My Marriage: What I’ve Learned
It's really hard to bring awareness to the parts of yourself that you don't like, especially when you hurt those you love the most.
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My Sister; Lessons She Has Taught Me Growing Up
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Coming Clean: The Most Refreshing Benefits of Being Totally Honest
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Summer Fun or Summer Bummer? 5 Steps to Help Summer Overwhelm
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I’m Sorry for Judging You: What Judging Others Really Reveals!
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Military Wife Life: Tools to Survive the Constant Transition of His Career
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Here in the We Spot community, we are proud to have a space where we feel surrounded by support and love. Each time I hop onto our blog or pop…
Forgive Yourself and Find Peace – Stop Drinking the Poison!
Recently a member of my Take Care of You Community asked me to share some helpful tips about forgiveness. I was so glad she asked because this is an important…
Living in the Moment and Measuring in the Decade
I have a vivd memory from my childhood of going to a birthday party with my parents for someone who was turning 40. There were black balloons and black signs…
What I’ve Learned From Having a Rebellious Teenager
Teenagers! For me, it's an experience beyond anything I could have ever imagined summed up into one word. I have a rebellious teenager that likes to push boundaries. If something…
The Women are Rising; Time to Build Ourselves Up
For the last ten years I have owned a small strategic sales consultancy. Most of my decision maker clients have been women. Working in and amongst sales and marketing teams,…
Hey, I know you! New Phase…Same Family
Hello! It started innocently enough. We were two 19-year-old college freshman, and we only had eyes for each other. And, we had it badly. We could talk for hours about…
I No Longer Show Up For My Family
This one shift has helped me love those around me better. I am able to accept the humanity of those around me and allow that they are doing their best.
A Letter to my Daughter for her 18th Birthday
Instead of purchasing a card off the shelf, I felt like I could best honor her by writing a love note. A list of memories or things that came to…
Who is Helping You? Making an Empowered Choice and Heeding the Red Flags
We are finally entering a place in time where people are more open to asking for help. The idea of reading self-help books or leaning into personal development doesn't hold…
Letting Go Of Things That Don’t Serve You, Without Apology.
Please be aware that this article discusses suicide. If you or someone you know is in crisis, call the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline at 800-273-8255, text HOME to 741741 or…
Sacrifice: Not Just a Dirty Word
SACRIFICE is not just a dirty word. Or is it? What does this word conjure up for you? Perhaps its sadness or heartbreak. Maybe it brings with it, a sense…
A Penny’s Worth of Thoughts: Collecting Valuable Moments with your Children
The glimmer of sweet, sweet coins Nothing makes me happier during a run or a walk than catching a small glimmer in the street. A small glimmer that is of…
The One Thing That Shifted My Marriage Struggles
Have you ever had those moments where you wonder, “Why did we get married?” I would like to say this question only arose after children were born and we were dredging through the exhaustion of raising small babies. But no. This question arose in the first weeks and months of marriage and I wish someone had told me this one thing that might have shifted our marriage.
Cutting the Toxic Ties: Not Everyone Knows How to Love
My dad was in the military and left early every day for work. When I woke up I would go to the kitchen and find something to eat. Then I…
Live a Life You Love: 4 Simple Ways to Have Fun as a Mom
Time for fun? What moms have time for that? If you're like me, you're thinking about the million things on your to do list that are occupying your brain space…
The Case for Marriage: 5 Reasons to Marry Young
Our Story: Picture this; my heart is racing as I see all the guests being seated. I am all alone now at the top of these red wood stairs.…
Growing Forward: 3 Life Lessons I Learned That Aren’t Taught in School
Recently I was reminded that in order to grow forward, we must embrace our past. It is a part of me that made me into the person I am today,…
Looking for friendship? Spend time with people you like
Have you ever struggled with friendships? You're not alone. Making friends is uncomfortable for most of us. Let's take the pressure off of friendship.
The Big G and how it nearly wrecked me- Finding myself at thirty-eight
Nearly two years ago, I took the biggest trip of a lifetime. I flew to Bolivia in search for my brother who was left abandoned and homeless in the streets…
Identity: The Journey of Discovering Who I am
I started gymnastics at the age of three and it became my life. My identity over the next seventeen years. Bringing me recognition, awards and a scholarship to continue my…
Coffee, Love, and Other Things Important in My Life
My Coffee Pot died today…. well, kind of. It ALMOST died today...it was a tragedy for about 10 minutes. Don’t worry...I already had a new one bought in my head. …
Growing Up Together: Part 1 – Setting The Scene & Being Honest
If you’ve arrived here in this sacred space you are probably like me; a fellow change-maker, peace-creator and sprinkler of love on our planet. I answered a call from the…
Come and Take a Seat: There is Room for YOU at Our Table
Today is the launch of The We Spot blog. Let me tell you, this has been a LONG time coming. It's absolutely amazing to see it come to fruition. The…
TRUE LOVE is found in the vulnerable places.
Here we are…February.. .we’ve already reached the second month in our 2019. Traditionally, by the beginning of this month, in the supermarkets, on social media and in all of the…