Stepping Away From a Broken Marriage and Saving More Than Yourself

Stepping Away From a Broken Marriage and Saving More Than Yourself

That one small act of stepping away, that you performed in the moment of tremendous courage, has the power to change destinies of the next generations! 

Broken Promises

She was young and sheltered. Already had a heart full of broken promises when she met the one who promised her the moon. Trust didn’t take long to surface again in spite of the looming differences. She longed for his kept promises and he slowly lured her in. Eventually, she found the courage to begin stepping away from the culture and traditions that were the last barrier and fully stepped into his world of all things new.

Feelings of new love and the excitement of discovering a new world kept her entertained and she forgot the pain that the stepping away had caused. She built a new reality and welcomed new friends. Life flowed easily with the one who had promised her the moon. At that time, the power of stepping away meant a promise kept and a love of her own to thrive in. A precious blue bundle of wiggling humanity soon was followed by a pink bundle of dainty humanity. And life seemed as perfect as it could possibly be.

Patching the Cracks

But life has a way of aging new love. Entertainment fades and leaves a crack of reality. Excitement turns to questions and the promised moon never shows up. It was through those cracks of reality that she began to worry that things didn’t seem to add up. Over and over she would glimpse facts that would have her scurrying back to cover herself in the shreds of old promises. She reassured herself that the story she believed must surely be true, and there was a clear explanation for her worries. She pushed her troubling thoughts out of her beautiful paradise and moved on by adding her perceived version of the story to each chapter of life.

As time moved on the cracks of reality became too big to ignore. They needed patching somehow. And she gave it her best try. That season of patching the cracks soon became an overwhelming reality that help was needed. The patches were not holding the cracks together and new cracks were appearing at an alarming rate. Her grasp on the crumbling paradise was cutting into her fingers. The falling debris was gashing the precious, wiggling bundles she huddled over to protect. The time had come to unclench her hand and begin stepping away from the sure disaster in the making.

First, she would have to discover the deep, hidden power of stepping away. It was buried inside of her beautiful soul. The how, where and why questions fought hard with her courage. And stepping away glared angrily at her broken heart. She wavered time and again by frantically adding patches; searching for the perfect patch to save her paradise!

Courage: The Big Decision

One day the cracks broke wide open and her perceived version of the story fell open to the page of harsh truths. The answers to her questions were perfectly clear. She knew her future course. Finding the courage to step away was what she needed. Somehow, deep in her soul, she knew the momentum of this kind of stepping away would be greater than she was currently understanding. As the overwhelming presence of fear was doing its best to snuff out her flicker of courage, she slowly rose up. One day at a time, as she processed each agonizing future move, she fanned her flickering flame of courage and burned brighter. Slowly the flame grew until she set the date. She made the definite plan, and next came the moment she dreaded and anticipated. She summoned her courage and did the actual act of stepping away! 

Discovering Your Power

It didn’t feel anything like she had feared. Stepping away had brought an unexpected understanding of just how much power she had over the lives of herself and her children. The future looked completely different without all the unsightly cracks and crumbling walls. She blinked in the realization of the powerful move she had just made by stepping away! She was freeing herself from a crumbling future bent on destroying everything in its path. By stepping away she had saved future generations from a crumbling life that was sure to eventually snuff the life out of them! Her one decision and one move had changed the tide of life forever. There was no going back. And she didn’t want to. In the realization of the power of her actions, she changed her entire mindset.

In spite of the harsh beginning, so much could be accomplished. She began to build her paradise again. This time, on her own terms and a firm reality of her powerful truth. The future looked bright for her posterity and she could smile without fear. Stepping away had taught her about a beautiful power that she would pass on to empower them as they faced their own future. Discovering the power of stepping away had changed the world for her future generations! 

Lynette Conley

Lynette is a Southern belle transplanted to central Pennsylvania. She lives with her little gentleman who is an avid Lego-lover and her little princess who loves to read and draw. She loves designing and has put that passion to work by creating her own children’s clothing line. After finding the courage to leave a failing marriage she realized that there were so many other women who needed to find their own courage. As she shared her heart and the new things she was learning about bravery, she felt drawn to reach a helping hand to those coming behind her. That launched an opportunity to touch many more lives through writing and mentoring. She's excited to grow and learn in this We Community and hopes that her writing will encourage all who read!

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