When you’re happily engaged and looking forward to getting married, your wedding day is something you’ll be tightly scheduling, planning, and ensuring goes off without a hitch.
The wedding plan is something we traditionally think of as being important to the bride, but millions of couples break this stereotype every single day by continuously working together to design their dream nuptials.
But if you’re concerned that your partner isn’t having as much input on the wedding plans as you are, there are a few things you can do to ensure you’re both getting your say and dividing the labor equally.
Agree on the Important Details Together
When it comes to planning a wedding, four things are essential to get ironed out and booked and paid for. For one, there’s the date itself. Another is the venue you’ll get married in. The third is who you’re going to invite. The fourth is how you’re going to cater.
Everything else can be decided on in time, at your leisure – really. For now, sit down together and get these four things down on paper.
Agree to make an hour or two to spend this time with each other, when you can look at wedding venues, decide on the best time of year to get married, what you’d like to eat, and who you want to come along. This will guarantee that at least the most important details have been agreed with 50/50 input.
Assign Tasks to Each Other
Neither one of you has to take on the entirety of the wedding planning alone. If you don’t want to take on each task together, ensuring you’re both putting the same amount of effort in, then simply assign tasks to each other.
You can also break tasks in two and assign one side to each other, aligning with what each of you is good at. For example, you may have more of a creative eye, so you’re the one who will design the invitations. However, seeing as your fiance has a better sense of organization, they’re going to be the one writing on the guest addresses and mailing them to the right place.
Put a Deadline on Decisions
Once you’ve assigned these tasks for each other to take care of, set dates for when you need to present the final decisions. Take your tasks away, do your research, get your numbers and quotes, and then come back to the joint planning table at the same time.
You can make this a step by step process, by choosing a task at a time, taking a week, presenting the final decision to each other, and then choosing the next task to tackle. Or you could split the work between each other, and take the next three to six months to get the details ironed out before that deadline hits.
Wedding plans should always be a team effort. Make sure you’re both involved in planning your wedding day; it’ll make you much happier!
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